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First Week of Vacation...

When I celebrated my 16th birthday back in Oklahoma, it was one of the worst years for tornadoes that Oklahoma ever experienced. I just celebrated another birthday ;). For the two and half weeks we were gone KS experienced one of the worst outbreaks of tornadoes in history - over 200 plus in those two weeks, and just shy of 500 for the month of May! We just blew in on Thursday (literally - 35-50 mph winds) from what was supposed to be a 2 week vacation, just my son & I.

Studiowindow.jpg picture by kmd_76  My house was still standing despite our absence, my studio window where I'm usually on one of my computers is the top window, the bay window is the guestroom.

My flowerbeds looked very good without any care - except nature.   5f9fd52b.jpg picture by kmd_76  RosesinBloom.jpg picture by kmd_76  

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This is just a sampling of shots, I don't know how many of you remember I was once a landscape designer.

Everything fared well in the 10 inches of rain, the plants even survived 3 days of hail, another round on the night we arrived home and two days of winds in excess of 64 mph. Thursday night we were pelted with storm after storm of four hours of wind and 30 minutes of pea to nickel sized hail - no flooding...please NO!! In Wichita the storms raced by in less than an hour, but just like the snow this winter all the storms kept streaming up from Oklahoma & pounding us.

As far as the vacation...Sometimes our plans didn't go according to our itinerary. In the end we have many memories to look back on - in our minds and some on our bodies, to remember those "unplanned events." Without them, life would certainly be dull and I cannot say my life has ever come close to being "boring!"

6823556a.jpg picture by kmd_76  We started our trek on May 20th, the day after my son's graduation from middle school into...eegads - high school...help! As if the fact that he's a teenager and four inches taller than me isn't enough.  Our destination for night one was Mt. Vernon, IL. The first few days went according to plan - making it from Eastern KS to the Outer Banks in three days journey.  I only realized a few weeks before that I had chosen our first weekend for Memorial Day, although we did beat the traffic; because we arrived on Thursday. We added several states to my list of 27, bringing my total to 32 states visited out of 50. Here are the first of my vacation photos.  I will add more in part two...  
One of our first stops was the arch in St. Louis:
 
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       Arch full view...                              Arch closeup                           Me @ base of Arch
 
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A detour in West Virginia:  Weathered Barn                            cattle grazing                                             wild Phlox
 
 
 
We spent 3 glorious sails with a friend on his 55 foot charter sailboat. I shared my passion of sailing with my son and he took to it right away. My friend even allowed him to take the helm which made my son on an even keel to the helm! ;)  
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My son was threatening to throw me overboard, but the Captain & First Mates would not allow it. I actually received a hug! One of my favorite stops is sailing; we went 3x, it would have been four, but that's in the paragraph that begins: "We stayed four nights then packed up..."
 
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 My son & I horsing around.                                    My friend, Captain MK                      son @ the Helm
 
 
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  I was calming him down here.                            I Love feeling the breeze in my hair & on my face.
 
After staying our first night in a bed & breakfast, the 2nd night in the OBX was the Memorial Day weekend and we planned to camp. I had reservations & I called the campgrounds, but the guy was directionally challenged. I told him I would call him after our sail and get directions. When we were through, I called the grounds and they'd shut off their phones! I drove around for an hour trying to find them, none of the locals knew it existed, at least the ones who were up at 9 pm. We had our food to go fm "Awful Arthur's" - great seafood! I had fried oysters, coleslaw, & hushpuppies & my son had king crab legs w/fries. We realized as he opened his food, he didn't have any utensils, I had brought some, but nothing to crack open Crab Legs!! We stopped @ Wally-w0rld & I sent my son in to buy pliers, he came back with a nice heavy duty set to add to my collection. Note to self: "Don't send a male to get a tool, they'll buy the biggest one!"  We were exhausted; ate our food @ the visitor ctr and trashed the remains, used the restroom and looked for a police or fire station, another elusive compound. Don't they have crime & fires on the island? I gave up & we positioned my Volvo SUV in the visitor center parking lot.  
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The next morning we woke up to a dead battery. In my descent into sleep, my son had asked to turn on the air conditioner, which I wouldn't have allowed.  The mosquitos were fierce & he forgot about our 12 inch camping fan! I mumbled what he thought was "Yes" to which I have no recollection. So the car was turned on to the accessory p0sition ALL night while we slept until 8 am, we had gone to bed around 1 am. We woke up with a big sign by our car that said "NO CAMPING."  Well, we didn't have a tent does that count? We had the back two rows of seats down and many quilts with a pad and two sleeping bags. I just thought we fell asleep in my vehicle.
 
I had to call a tow service, because someone had borrowed my jumper cables and failed to put them back in my car. I will buy myself another set, because my very clean heavy duty cables w/my rag in a zippered pouch, are covered in grease and the bag is now ripped. I had them for 7 years in pristine condition and were used many times to help others. The tow-operator was nice and followed me back to the station. I arrived first and they were trying to sell me a new battery, he wouldn't hear of it, my car only has a little over 20G on it. He ran his own tests and said, "You're fine, just as you told me, run your car so the alternator can charge it back up 30 minutes minimum and there's NO charge for testing." I filled up my tank and we went for another sail. Afterwards, I was so annoyed at the Campground, I didn't bother to cancel my reservation, (no deposit lost). I found a Motel, the kind where you drive up to your room, it was clean and had Internet. My son was happy & we even had beach access. One night we went beachcombing and found a dead stingray. There were more shells than I've ever seen there before.
 
We stayed four nights at the OBX, then packed up for Ocracoke Island fully intending to take an early sail; we had to make an early ferry and were rushing around. (Try getting a teenager around early in the summer!) We were doing great until I was getting the last couple of things from the room and checking once-more for items. My son walked in and said "Mom, where are your other keys to the car?" I said "My camera bag, where is it?" He said "NO! Do you have any more?" I said "Yes, another set in the car, WHY?"... "I just locked the keys in the car." "Well, we're okay unless you grabbed my camera." he said "I did, I knew we were in a hurry, it's in the car." So now we know the locksmith on the OBX, he came right away, and had us on our way in less than 25 minutes; I was so prepared with 3 sets of keys, my camera never leaves my side, so that's a perfect spot for the extra set, or so I thought. I wouldn't put a spare on the outside of the car and the locksmith agreed, it's too nice of a vehicle! I'm proud of my prudence - I just can't control another's mind! We skipped the sail and made it to the ferry, with 30 minutes to spare.
 
Now, if everything has been boring to you so far, this is where things get painfully tedious...I decided to make a pitstop. We cut the engine as instructed and rolled down the windows; my son wanted to stay in the car. I got out of the car thinking maybe a drink or snack for the ferry ride...as I had just pushed the driver's door to shut it, I reached back in to get my purse. Call it crazy, not thinking of the momentum of a new car with a large door, but OUCH!  YEP, that door slammed on my hand and I stood there in shock, I didn't curse. I was just numb for a second or two until the pain receptors kicked in. Then I looked back in the window w/my righthand firmly wedged b/w door & car and sternly told my son "OPEN THE DOOR!" It was my mantra, he didn't understand why I was saying this so robotically and like it was the last sentence of my life. Then he noticed I was attached to the car, at the same time my brain kicked in that I do have a left hand and reached for the handle, we opened it at the same time. He was saying "Mom, are you okay?" That was his mantra, as I held my hand with my left and bent over feeling as if my right hand would explode, it was already red, purple, and green. The 3 fingers were my middle, ring, & pinkie. I went to the ferry station and said "Do you have a bag of ice for my hand?" I held up my hand and the two ladies both gasped "Oh My God! We'll fix one for you."
 
Okay, I'm tough, I went to the restroom while one fixed the bag, the other followed me in thinking I would faint and waited outside the stall. I came out and she kept saying "Are you sure you're okay?" I couldn't understand why she was asking this until I washed my hands and saw I was white as a sheet and I had a good tan already. My hand appeared to be bleeding, but it was just all the blood at the surface. The swelling was instantaneous! When we arrived on the Island on Memorial Day, I sought medical treatment, because the swelling continued. The only clinic was closed so I located the EMTs, who incidentally do not carry splints in their ambulances!! I told them "I've taken Ibuprofen, iced it immediately, kept it elevated above my heart, but I need a splint for my ring finger, it's the worst." They taped it to my middle finger and told me to call the doc if it continued to swell, to take ibuprofen, ice it, elevate it, and not to bump it! DUH!! Were they NOT listening? Please don't tell me something I already know when I'm in pain! I'm going back for my PA, I just smiled and asked if I owed them anything.
 
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I did have to call the Dr. who happened to be an Orthopedist and he cauterized the nail twice to let off the pressure. Then he had splints, all sizes of a new technology in splints, I had to wear one that would normally be 4-5 sizes too big due to the swelling. He told me "Our EMT service is not well-equipped here." I'm thinking "No, Really?" Then proceeded to tell me there were no x-ray machines on the Island and that he believed I had at least one broken finger. He asked where I was going and told me only Ortho docs have x-ray machines in NC, you'll need to go to the ER @ your next stop. I told him we planned to go deep sea fishing the next day and he said I could, but let someone else reel it in. I replied, "That's the best Part!" He said "You have a high pain tolerance & you're tough, good luck!"
 
df63e5c0.jpg picture by kmd_76 This was a 200 lb Tuna caught next to the sailboat we sailed on, they were preparing it when we came in one day, they also had a 180 lb Tuna. Unfortunately, the only boat that was available decided not to go out late the next morning, so we decided to head on to Camp LeJeune. The campground we were at had messed up our reservation site, which I HAD paid for and I was too frustrated to deal w/another dilemma. 
 
I've been to the OBX enough that most of the locals know me and the coffeeshop owner allowed us to sit outside his shop after hours that last night so my son could play his Internet game and I could check emails. The locals are trying to talk me into moving there to do wedding photography, it's the 3rd largest wedding market, almost tied w/Las Vegas, and Hawaii ranks first.
 
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My grandson was very excited to see Nana, he kept saying my name, I was his third word, after Mama & Dada, then bye. He nearly jumped into my arms, he isn't walking yet, but he cruises around everything and he climbs everything like my youngest son did. He can turn the TV to the cartoon channel, which he started at 8 mos. and he called me on the cell phone by himself once also. My sons had male-bonding time, video games, paintballing, and saw a movie. So they had their share of bruises to go with mine. They really enjoyed the time together. It was good for my son to have a strong male role model around. 
 
0381364c.jpg picture by kmd_76 I was able to visit the studio where my daughter is finishing up her CD of ten songs. All lyrics & music she has written except one song and she reworked music on another song. She just finished writing the lyrics to her last song. We had gone to the beach and she didn't wear sunscreen, so she was suffering from a very bad sunburn. In this photo, she's practicing the night before the studio and trying to stay cool. We stayed in JX 6 days because you won't believe, I came down w/a 101 temp the night before we planned to come home. So I had 3 urgent care visits in our 2.5 week vacation. I had a very severe sinus infection and was put on 4 meds and told to wait another day to return. Then the dr. said to take 4 days driving home, w/no more than 6 hrs driving per day.
 
Part two of our vacation will be our trip to Biltmore Estates, the Maserati, Ferrari, Porsche, Aston Martin dealership. Driving through part of the Cumberland Pass with all the trucks. Staying in the Bourbon capital of America in Kentucky, dealing w/dodging storms and the overall fun we had on our trip.  Despite the many things that came up, we have many memories, a great time I spent with my kids, especially my son, and saw beautiful scenery. I hope I didn't bore you to tears.
 
 
 
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Friends not Foes

I have met some great people at Townhall and I want to recognize them. I am an optimistic person by nature. There are many who have been inspirations to me. They have not passed judgment on me. Some of them I have come to know through personal email, but I would never disclose who they are. I was raised to honor friends and to hold their private information confidential. This brings to mind a situation recently where a friend that I've known since high school asked if I had a recent picture of another friend that we both knew from high school. I said that I did, but I would have to get permission from them before I passed it along. If you want trust from your friends you must show yourself trustworthy. Maybe this is why most of the people I graduated with 30 years ago confide in me things they wouldn't tell others. They know that I don't repeat what they say. I have learned sometimes the hard way, even recently, that there are people you can trust and those that you cannot. There are people who will malign you and stab you in the back. Being single several years taught me that men can be just as conniving as women, although I tend to have more male friends than female. I think the reason for this is that I grew up in a male dominant family on both sides.
 
That is why I grew up driving tractors, fishing, shooting guns, loving sports, cars, and airplanes. I had a wonderful farm-life upbringing and I relished each moment that I spent on the farm and the knowledge I gained each day. Would I trade the entire ilk that has happened to me since? Well, there are things that I wouldn't want to live through again, but we can learn something from what we've been through. If we don't learn from our mistakes and our trials, then what have we gained? We would turn into a miserable, bitter person, which brings me to my perspective on life always look forward not back. If someone has treated me with disdain or for some unknown reason quit being my friend, I feel it is their loss, not mine. I don't wish them ill or harbor grudges, life is too short.
 
Here on TH the people that I've met who have been kind to me and steadfast are:
 
Marine's Dad, USMC Lt., Georgetwin, Gray Ghost, Crawfish, Sgt Relic, wil, Primus54, Nee, emjayne, Jeff G, Steve & Lisa B, BrianR, 1mas and Ralph E 
 
 
They are not listed in any particular order. I tried to remember the ones I've known the longest and just mention all that I could think of. I want to thank you for your kindness. I'll be out of town later this week and I didn't want you to think that anyone ran me off if you don't see me in the next couple of weeks. I may check in from time to time, but this is my time to spend with my son and a time that I know I must focus on him. He's at the age that it may be the last vacation he's willing to spend with Mom. I hope to have some great new photos when I get back! 
 
If there is anyone that I failed to mention, count it to my birthday coming up.... ;) and I'm not telling when or how many!
 
"Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God." (Matthew 5:8)
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How would Your Child answer?

We raise our children and we try to instill good values in them. If you're a parent in the way that I am, you use the Bible as your foundation. Yesterday, I took my son to a private school where he's trying to gain entrance and I was very pleased with the man he is becoming. He had to take an assessment test, I did not stay while he took the test, and I dropped him off to run errands.

When he described the test to me later, I realized it was partially an IQ test and a comprehension test, so I trust he will do quite well. I believe this because he scores high on all the State and Federal tests he takes in the public schools, which is in the top one to three percent in the nation. The school that he's applying to is a Christian preparatory school and they have very strict guidelines for entrance, there are many forms to fill out. One form he had to fill out contained an essay question. I know that he's been given a good foundation, but sometimes you wonder how much has taken root and sprung forth. Yesterday he proved to me how firm his foundation is and I was very pleased. 

The answer came in the form of his essay:   The question was about Jesus being tempted by the devil after fasting for 40 days. "Which of the temptations, in your opinion, were the hardest and the easiest and why: turning the stones into bread; jumping from the temple to allow the angels to catch Him; or worshipping Satan in exchange for the kingdoms and all the riches of the world? How could you apply this to your life?" My son's answer follows.
 

Turning the stones into bread would be the hardest temptation because Jesus was suffering from hunger pangs. He could easily have turned the stones into bread, but he had to follow what his Heavenly Father, who was his real father, wanted him to do. His Faith is what got him through. Having all the riches would be easy to turn down, because you could have all the riches in the world and still be miserable, but you could be poor and be happy with God. Many people who are rich go to hell, because they do not follow God. I could apply this to my life by following what God wants of me, because all the riches in the world will not bring me happiness and will not buy my way into heaven. I must do what my Heavenly Father wants and listen to my parents as well.

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Mother's Day

It is Mother's Day and for all of you who are Mother's (and this goes to Fathers who had to 'stand in' for Mothers too, for whatever reason) I hope that you have a great day!

I believe our children can be our legacy and mine have certainly made me proud! They love me, they cherish me and if push came to shove they would stand by me against anyone who came against me and have.

My oldest daughter graduated from college in three and a half years with an International Business degree and a minor in Spanish - Summa Cumme Laude. I had just had spinal surgery and I was unable to attend her graduation, the doctor would not release me for the three hour drive; several months before I had been in a near fatal car accident. I cried for a week not to be able to share this milestone with her. I was SO PROUD of her! She met her husband at the University she attended and they dated and then took courses together in Spain. He proposed to her at one of the Seven Wonders of the World, the Generalifé in the gardens in Spain. He washed her feet as Jesus did his disciples and told her that he didn't just want to be her husband; he also wanted to be her servant. He is still the head of the household, but she manages the bills. She went on to become a bilingual first grade teacher. He was a bilingual fourth grade teacher and received his Master's from UTA at the age of 23 and became a principal at the age of 24! When they had their second child, she decided to stay home and became licensed as a daycare provider. She also teaches private Spanish lessons and they go with their church on missions trips to Mexico almost every year. They are the translators. They also help lead the Praise and Worship at their church as she is a gifted pianist/keyboard player by sight and by ear and he is gifted on both acoustical and classical guitars also by sight and by ear. Plus they both sing very well. I attend their church when I'm in their town and I love hearing them play and sing.  I have my own church in my home town. They have my first two grandchildren who adore me and the oldest one calls me on the phone with my daughter's help. Sometimes he just needs to "talk with Nana." So cute!

All of my kids and grandkids have a portion of my heart and I don't favor any of them over the others. I am always fair in gift-giving and try to divide my attention to them all equally. I have a great deal of love to share.
 
My next is my son who is a Sgt. in the Marine Corp; he does not have his degree, yet he attained his rank through hard work and dedication in three short years. I cannot say what he does, as his job has very high security clearance, but I can say that I'm extremely proud of him. On his first and second deployments he led a Bible study. He's a stalwart man with a dedication to God and country! We happen to share the same birthday which is very special. He has my next grandchild, a son who is already an electronics genius. He actually called me one night on their cell phone and they cannot figure out how, because they had not called me that day. He was jabbering away, when I heard his Mom say, "He sounds like he's actually talking to someone!" I said into the phone loud enough for them to hear "He is, it's his Nana!" She grabbed the phone after a little while and said "I don't know how he figured out how to do that! Do you know he turns the TV to the cartoon channel sometimes?" They don't have me on speed dial, somehow he pushed the right buttons. We laughed; at the time he was only 8 mos old! She is lovely and is a floral designer, a very talented one too and follows God and spent time with me when he was on his last deployment. They've been apart more in their marriage than together.

 
My next daughter is a recording artist who sings a 4.5 octave range and is recording her first solo CD of Christian Contemporary music. She started singing solos at the age of nine and it was in front of an audience of 1,200 people. She had to audition for it, out of 75 kids from ages eight to eleven, the director narrowed it down to two - both of my daughters! I said "Leave me out of this decision, you have to make it and I cannot believe it came down to the two of them!" They sang duets together in the church we attended and when we moved from that church their farewell song was "Friends are Friends Forever" (if the Lord's the Lord of them) by Michael W. Smith. She went on to take voice lessons, while her sister took piano lessons and she took every solo she tried out for in high school. She attended college on a music scholarship, but decided to do missions work and went to Thailand to help rescue girls whose families had sold them into prostitution. They helped set up homes and taught them to garden, she had learned to garden from me. Now she's pursuing her dream and she has some really good producers and will be finishing her project soon. She sings at churches for specials and sometimes at weddings. I also attend her church when I visit her if I'm there on a Sunday. When her husband came to meet the family when they were dating, which was for 3 years, he said "If you look as young and as good as your Mom does after having kids, I won't have anything to complain about." My other son-in-love (I call them that becaue they are such wonderful men and I don't like the word in-law!) was in the next room and he said, "Yes I thought the same thing when I met Kimberly the first time, you have to assess the family genes." They were so funny! He's also a very Godly man and he is in communications, he also sings. He treats her with respect and is the head of the house as well. All the men in the family are and should be.
 
When we have family get-togethers it is a real treat because we have so much talent and they sing and delight me with their musical talent. I used to sing with them, but my anterior cervical discectomy damaged my vocal chords and my range is not what it used to be. I used to sing solos in my church. We all read music or can listen by ear for the notes.
 
Last but not least is my son who is still at home; I was blessed with all gifted children. Some people say this is a curse not a blessing but I am an optimist and I look at it as a blessing and a challenge! ;) He scores in the top one percent in the nation on all the national tests in school just like his siblings did, so I'm proud of him as well. Public school has lost much of its control; although living in a rural location has had its advantages. He will be graduating in another week from middle school and making the big step to high school. The middle school principal is a God-fearing man and we've talked about curriculum many times over the last three years. He keeps a Bible on his desk at all times and nobody says one word about it. He is a disciplinarian and I totally agree with him. I was concerned at one point because my son came home and told me they would be teaching evolution and he said "Mom I don't want to be in the class because we believe in Creationism." He's always had a large vocabulary. The principal assured me his science teacher was a Christian and would present it as a theory not fact and he did. This son at the age of three started ordering for himself at restaurants without my assistance. The first time he did, we were at a nice restaurant he said "Mom I want to order, please don't say anything!" I was taken aback but I waited to see how he would handle himself. When the waiter came he said "I want the fried chicken tenders and I would like to substitute fruit for the french fries." After the waiter left my son looked at me very seriously and asked "Mom did I use 'substitute' correctly?" I told him "Yes, son you did and I'm very impressed." I smiled at his very adult manners. That only seems like yesterday and now he'll be going into high school. At this juncture, I've decided to opt for a private school because the public school drops in rankings - middle school at the top 20% in the nation and the high school to the bottom 30%. So we're in the process of procuring a spot in a private school with the conservative foundations I've raised him with.
 
Amendment 4/15: I failed to mention my two stepsons that I've had the privilege of having a hand in raising. I have always felt that they are 'my' sons as well. Yet, I would NEVER try to take their OWN Mother's place! They are very dear to me! Over the years, it seems children are easier to love than adults. Maybe that is because they are usually still malleable, where adults tend to become stuck in their ways and dogmatic. Nevertheless, these two young men have touched my life and apparently I have touched theirs. They are practically grown now and the oldest is nearly through college and I'm very proud of them. The oldest one calls me on each Mother's day and usually on my birthday. I get a card on both occasions and sometimes they join me for lunch on Mother's Day. Since Mother's Day seems to land on the week before finals they rarely get 'home' to see 'either' mother. The oldest one is an accounting major and has one year of college left, with the five year plan. This is due to working in a bank almost full-time in a very good job. He would not have to, his Mother has a very good job, but he is a very responsible young man and realizes that it is linked to his future. The youngest one recently switched majors to business, but he's only a sophomore and it's not unusual at his age. They are both 'gifted' as well. I expect to see them do great things in their lives. I came into their life before the oldest was a freshman in high school and they're two years apart. They both played football (my favorite sport) and the oldest went on to play on a football scholarship until he had to have extensive surgery and PT. I was honored when the oldest had Sr recognition in wrestling to receive the 'Mother's Rose' and his Mother and I both received one at the football game that honored the Srs.

They know I have high standards in my home and they've respected them, no cursing, no movies that are rated R unless I have screened them and some of the PG movies I have to get online and find out why before they are plugged into my DVD player. I have restrictions on my TV, oh my...Parental Controls. I'm archaic...LOL! At least that's what I've been told. 'My friends parents let them...You're the only mother that...' I've heard them all and I don't cave. Call me hard nose, but my oldest children are proof that I've done 'SOMETHING' Right! I had the same battles with them! What I wanted to mention is that they sent me a card and they usually write in it, but I was especially touched by the one I received this year, they said it would be late because they bought it and failed to mail it on time due to studying for finals. I was sincerely grateful that they cared enough to send me the card. As I read the personal note, it brought tears to my eyes; the oldest one wrote it and this is what it said:

Kimberly - We have been blessed every day since you first came into our lives. You are truly a very special mother to us.
Also, since it is your day we wanted to say thank you for all that you have done and will continue to do for all of us.
Happy Mother’s Day!!! 
 
 
With this being Mother's Day, I thought others could share stories of their children. I have some friends who have been both mother and father to their children, so you need not be female. Sometimes our children define us and I believe that mine have. If your child has strayed from your teachings, I pray that they come back to you and to God. God is first in my life and plays an integral role and always has. If you don't have anything positive to say, then I ask that you refrain from posting. This is not a day, nor is any day a day to spew venom and you know who I'm talking to. Thank you!
 
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Gossip vs. Grateful

I have been through a great deal in my life, but I know I'm not alone. I have friends and I have God. I've dealt with a great deal of hatefulness and physical pain over the years. I'm not looking for sympathy, because I'm an optimist and I've learned to look forward, not back. I don't pretend to be perfect by any means, but I do my best not to talk about people or condemn them. Jesus said, "He who is without sin cast the first stone."

I don't believe what I hear about someone unless I go to the person who is being talked about and ask, but usually if the person is not there, I stop the conversation and say: "If they were standing right here, would you say what you're saying?" This usually stops any gossip. I had a friend who was a constant gossip. Every time we were together, alone or with a group of other women, there was gossip. One day this 'friend' asked me if I was going to attend the monthly 'ladies' dinner. I asked her "Do you ever wonder when you don't attend if they talk about you?" She looked at me quizzically. I said "The reason I ask, is because I've observed that the topic of conversation is always focused on the person who is NOT in attendance. It goes something like 'did you hear what ___ did?' or 'do you know the latest on ___?'" I told her "I'm not without fault myself, but one thing I will not tolerate in a friend is gossip." I went on to say that I wasn't telling her to disassociate with the group, she had to be her own moral compass with God's guidance, but I couldn't be part of that group anymore. I eventually ended our friendship because she repeated things I told her in confidence and to me that is not friendship. 

Before I did, I shared what the Bible says about gossip. God considers gossip to be so serious that He included it to be avoided in one of the Ten Commandments. "Thou shall not bear false witness against your neighbor." (Exodus 20) When you repeat something you heard from someone else, or share a story and you were not an eyewitness to the details, or even share information about another person that can only bring them hurt or harm and not good, then you are bearing false witness against them. The second commandment is "Love your neighbor as yourself." I love myself enough that I wouldn't tell evil things or go about badmouthing myself to others. I believe in being honest and forthright, when or IF I wrong someone, I do my best to apologize immediately and hopefully they accept my apology. I try not to hurt anyone in the first place, then I don't have to apologize.
 
Luke 17:3-4 So watch yourselves. "If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. If he
sins AGAINST
you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, 'I repent,' forgive him."
Mark 11:25-26 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your
Father in Heaven may forgive you your sins.
 
Life is short, we should laugh when we can, and accept others with their faults as much as possible. Of course, this is as long as the person isn't being abusive to you. Accept when others correct their mistakes and move on. We need to be grateful for what he have, relish the people in our life who are good to us and return the favor. Never forget to tell someone how much we appreciate them or how something they said meant to us. When I leave this world I hope I am remembered as a person who was happy, a good parent, an optimistsomeone who made a difference, and also, someone who deeply cares for others, because I do. I hope I never leave with having offended someone.
 
Romans 12:17-18 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible,
as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 
II Timothy 4:16 At my first defense, no one came to my support, but everyone deserted me. May it not be held against them.
 
I hope that I don't have something to feel sorry for, I would hope that I don't offend people! It is not my intention. I hope that I live each day to the fullest and do my best to make those around me feel comfortable and peaceful. I've always been considered an optimist by those who truly know me.  I have made many friends in my life and I have found that wisdom and faith comes in ALL packages. I have also found that hypocrites come in all packages as well. They are the wolves dressed in sheep's clothing sometimes and other times they are very apparent. For those who know the struggles I've faced and have offered their encouragement, I thank you for your support. I'm not going into my life details, those are only shared with my closest friends. Thank you when you have sent me 'words of encouragement' through my ongoing trials. You know who you are and you are a treasure to me; you are more precious than all the gold and silver this world has to offer. It means so much to get online and see a message of encouragement. For those who have left bitter remarks, I will pray that God will change your heart, because I don't harbor ill-will against others and I'm not your judge or jury. 


      Matthew 7:1-5 "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with 
      the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no
      attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the
      time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to
      remove the speck from your brother's eye.
 

If I've ever failed to Thank any of you, I am thanking you now, because another way I want to be remembered is - Grateful

~ Kimberly MD©
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In Case of A Tornado...

Copyright © Kimberly MD

I live in Tornado Alley where the sky can turn quickly from a light sky blue to a deep cerulean blue with tinges of green. Anyone who has lived or grown up in Tornado Alley knows that this means an impending severe storm or sure signs of hail or at the very worst...a Tornado. Yesterday was one of those days and there are more storms predicted today. Some friends of mine were discussing what we would take with us to our 'room of shelter' if we had fair warning that a tornado was approaching. Also, we chatted whether we kept our "rooms" already stocked with "essentials." It was rather hilarious and I must be part boy scout or more of a planner than I realized.

My room is under my stairwell and it is a very nice cedar closet with two hanging rods and several shelves. I already have an all-band weather radio in it, along with a fire extinguisher and a flashlight. I check the batteries each Spring on my radio and replace them if necessary.  Another "given" is my gun, at least my 9mm, if there is any property that could be looted, you bet I'm going to protect it. I also might need to defend myself from wild animals or crazy men; or is that the same thing? My extra pillows are in there for guests, so I don't need to add more.  You never know how firm a pillow your guests like, so I keep an assortment with pillowcases. Then there are blankets and sheets because where else would you keep extra linens? My out of season clothes are stored in there but I've learned not to move the winter clothes in until after the end of June because it gets too crowded. If I lose them in a tornado, then I'll just have to buy new clothes. What woman hates new clothes?  Well, for me, I keep my most expensive camera lens in that closet at all times along with my tripod, when I'm not using it. This is much to my son's dismay, but it is a large closet. It can easily fit 3-4 people and if worse came to worst, we could throw the existing clothes out and fit in a couple more guests. ;) I'm not heartless...

Now, the next thing I have is my software, because if your computers blow away in a tornado, at least you have your software and the software for my iMac was more than the computer itself, even though I bought the 20" screen! I wish I could take my large screen TV down there, but I guess that is what homeowner's insurance is for, isn't it? I've recently thought of putting my hard copies of photography in there, but instead decided that I'll opt for all my flash drives and memory cards which take up less room. Perhaps I'll just take my film pictures and store them on one of the shelves.

I'm not EXPECTING to be blown away, but April 26th looms over us, and it is the anniversary of one of the deadliest tornado outbreaks in Kansas history. There were fifty-four tornadoes in Kansas and some have reported as many as seventy-one on that single day. The worst was an F-5 Tornado, which descended on the plains just Southwest of Wichita, KS in Clearwater, it remained on the ground for a remarkable 46 miles! The destruction of the half-mile wide twister was devastating. Homes that were not completely gobbled up were ripped off their foundations and had to be demolished. One hard hit area was Andover, KS a suburb of Wichita where I had been looking for a house, so many houses were destroyed in this middle to upper class suburb; that the people living there, quickly relocated to any available real estate in the area. I remember my real estate agent calling me to say that I should mark Andover off my list of 'possibles' for the Wichita area. I happened to be moving to Kansas that year - 1991! I moved from another Tornado Alley...Tulsa, Oklahoma, so I'm used to this, right?

Plus, I used to be a storm chaser, but I don't go now because one person I used to go with when my son was three years old scared the bejabers out of him. So much, that if you mention the word "tornado" he still dives into his bedroom, which is located in the basement next to my large cedar closet. She would get overly excited when we storm chased, she couldn't contain her excitement and sounded nervous, when it was really more of a fascination. He interpretted it to be fear and it instilled in him a fear of the mighty storms. I'm not saying that tornadoes shouldn't be feared or that you shouldn't respect the awesome strength of these disastrous natural phenomenons, because they are to be revered. Anything that can drive a drinking straw through a 2x4 and not leave a split or a crack is to be respected! I've seen such a thing. I've also seen a house that looked like someome took a jigsaw and cut the top floor completely off but left the windows intact, talk about major vacuum power! There are countless chin-rubbing, head-scratching, "how in the world?" things that happen during a tornado. For those of you who have seen the movie "Twister" with Helen Hunt and Bill Paxton it is quite typical in most of the depictions and dialogue. I've seen where it destroys three homes surrounding another and leaves one intact. They are totally unpredictable, unlike hurricanes! They drop out of the sky with a vengeance and a fierceness that is unbelievable.

Back to the shelter room, I also keep bottled water in the closet, because we must have water to live and our bodies are made up of 55-65% water. I also keep a container of wet wipes in the closet. They can be quite handy and a first aid kit. Now, if it comes down to the time, the next thing I pack is my medication, I have one that I must have and in a natural disaster how long do you think it would take to get that refilled? I can live without makeup, but I put in lip gloss for moisture, contact solution and extra contacts. Okay, now some of you may be thinking, gee she sounds like she's preparing for a bomb to drop, but have you seen the devastation of a tornado? I have one friend who has several canned goods, non-perishables, he was showing his "room" to me when he built his house a few years ago. He had the walls reinforced, because he lives on a rocky hill and cannot have a basement. The walls are built like a bomb shelter...ceiling and walls are 24" of reinforced concrete that meets bomb shelter specs! Now who's the one ready for un-natural disaster? He also has it vacummed sealed when the door closes, so whoa! I'm guessing by his profession, he takes his palm pilot/phone and already has all his oil well maps in the closet.

Some other friends have a room in their basement and the door to it is a vault-style door like you would find in a bank. Yes, I'm talking turning handle with a code! The kind you would see in an old western movie in a bank. The vault door is tall enough for a man over six feet tall to easily walk through. It is painted black with ornate gold paint detailing and the manufacturer's name is lettered in a very nice script. Thei